Brad and I have been talking about this topic lately. There's another gay couple we know who asked us about the "rules" we have in our relationship.
We've never come up with a list of "rules" or "expectations" or "conditions" or "terms" or any of that stuff.
I don't know if this is unusual or if maybe we should sit down and write all this out. It sorta seems like a waste of time. We've never felt any need to verbalize how things should work. It just works the way it does and when we have a particular issue we sit down and work it through.
We've never said anything like, "Okay, let's agree this is an "exclusive" relationship and we only have sex with each other." We are in a committed relationship. We've never felt any need to clarify that this means we only have sex with each other.
The couple we were talking to (who are about a decade older than us) looked at us like they couldn't believe we missed what they thought was a crucial element in any serious relationship.
Anybody have any thoughts about this?