Wednesday, January 16, 2013

Reviewing my resolve, part 3

After all my obsessing about writing this post, I finally decided enough (obsessing) is enough! I get in these moods sometimes where I think I have to be perfect -- I'm sure I'm the only person in the world who ever feels they have to sometimes be perfect, right? ;)

Anyway. I decided to just make this simple to see if I could pull it off. So here goes:

CHALLENGE #1:

If you've followed the blog for a while, there have been a number of references to my desire to be a parent. I haven't written about it lately but it's something that's been on my mind since probably high school.

So the challenge to myself for this year is to make some calls and attend some groups for gay men who are considering parenting.

There is a health center here in Boston that specializes in LGBT issues and they have a program in their behavioral health section called "LGBT Family and Parenting Services." They have an 8-week discussion and support group called, LGBT Considering Parenting Group and I'm planning on calling to get information about the next series.

CHALLENGE #2:

I wrote a while back (post on August 23) that one of my life adventures is to hike the entire Appalachian Trail. This can take anywhere from 5 to 7 months to complete (going all the way from Georgia to Maine). I haven't set a date yet but I'm challenging myself to begin a more concentrated physical training program so I'll have the proper muscles in good shape and so my cardiovascular system will keep those muscles well-nourished and my lungs at maximum capacity.

I've gotten some really good suggestions about proper training on some forums from some "Thru-Hikers" and I've also been corresponding with a couple of people from this area who are interested in going on some weekend day hikes at some mountain ranges in New Hampshire.

CHALLENGE #3:

I've been doing a lot of work this past year on a number of renovations to the house. Back in August of 2011 we posted this explaining that my grandparents (Gran and Papa) are giving me and my two brothers some of our inheritance while they're still alive. Since I'll be inheriting the house on my 21st birthday (less than 4 months from now) I need to step up some of the major renovations I promised them in exchange for a reduction in the rent we've been paying.

So I'm challenging myself to complete these major renovations before I turn 21. And in order to complete this challenge, I'm shopping for my very own pickup  truck! I won't have to rely on my friends to help me haul lumber and other building materials. I'm frankly not at all interested in one of those Macho Muscle Monster trucks either. I'm being very practical and trying to get something that will help me accomplish my sole purpose in owning a truck, which is to haul lumber and building material. Once it's served it's purpose, I'll probably get rid of it.

So there you have it. My challenges to myself for 2013.

45 comments:

  1. Awesome challenges! I'm amazed that you know you want to be a parent at such a young age (I was a late bloomer lol). I have no doubts that you'll accomplish everything you set out to do. Your grandparents are amazing people. They remind me of mine, got misty eyed over missing my grandmother who used to say, "I don't care if you wear black when I die, just love me while I'm here!"

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    1. LOL. I love what your grandmother said! She sounds like my Gran!

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  2. Good morning Madison! LOL. And have a good day everyone.

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  3. Those sound like very good challenges. They are well thought out and completely do-able. Wish my list was as well done. Good luck with your goals! I know you can do it :)

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  4. Hey Matt, I missed your post yesterday because I’m nursing a cold too. We can make a frog’s chorus together! I downloaded “How to Repair a Mechanical Heart” for some comfort reading and I can highly recommend it.

    I love your challenges. They are so mature and considered, especially the first. I’m thinking that a lot of dust will be generated from your construction work, though. LOL
    But I wonder if you find construction dust easier to clean than ordinary dust? To me it would be part of the job and not a chore. Isn’t that strange?

    Please don’t get stressed over writing a post, I want you to enjoy writing your blog as much as I enjoy reading it. We’re not professors grading you! LOL

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    1. Hey Alder! Thanks for that book recommendation. I'll check it out.

      Well, "construction dust" is going to be everywhere which means everything will need to be cleaned! I think I know where you're going with this. More housework, huh? Well... I now have those "rewards" Brad promised to make it a little more bearable! LOL

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    2. You know Matt, it sounds more & more like Brad has turned you into a mess monster with his reward system! It's like you're looking forward to the messes! LOL.

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    3. Matty the Mess Monster. Hahahaha!

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    4. And Bad Brad who thought up such a naughty incentive! I bet Matt goes bare under his construction apron or tool belt or whatever! LOL.

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    5. Oh Good Lord, Mary, did you have to say THAT? *fans self* Matty needs one of these: http://threadforthought.files.wordpress.com/2009/04/utilikilt-workman.jpg

      With nothing underneath, of course!

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    6. Love the pic!! I thought you'd pick up on "tool" belt. I cringed after I sent that lol. Wasn't thinking.

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    7. LOL. Here Matt is being all mature and serious, and we're regressing to drooling ERJ's (erotic romance junkies). We're supposed to save our shenanigans for when they're not around...

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    8. Close your eyes boys! Don't look! Geez we've hijacked their blog again but this time they're not busy with school. lol.

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    9. LOL!!! Remember those hall monitors they had in school who were always on the lookout for trouble? We might have to hire us some "Blog Monitors" to keep an eye on your guys!!! LOL!!!!! ;)

      And those links are really hot!! ;)

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    10. Lol, we might be the oldest & we can't behave!

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  5. Wow Matty! Lookit you! Your challenges may be for this year, but they are working toward your long term life and happiness. I wonder why I never thought of setting those kinds of goals for myself? I'm in awe of you. And the post seemed pretty dam close to perfect to me!

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  6. Love your challenges. I have no doubt you'll accomplish them (but let us know if you need some cheerleading along the way).

    And don't forget that you'll be completing another year of college, continuing to grow as a man, and continuing to learn how to share your life with Brad. Even though these developments aren't new, they're still a BIG deal - don't forget to give yourself credit.

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    1. Thank you, Ann Marie. Your reminders about all the other BIG stuff helps put everything in perspective. ;)

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  7. Those are very worthy challenges, Matt. I am espeically impressed with #1. I have no doubt you will do your best with all three and that's all anyone can ask of themselves

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    1. Thanks, Iv. Your confidence in me means a lot! ♥

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  8. What wonderful resolutions! I hope you accomplish all of them :)

    When I read your resolution #1, my mind immediately went to a book that I read recently - Ariel Tachna's "Her Two Dads". It was a pleasant read and was very lovely - I bet you and Brad can pick up some tips or two about babies from that (as far as I know babies ARE all that and plus some more - trouble as well as wonderful!)

    Oh btw - I am a environment conscious person but I do have a thing for pick up trucks. No idea why. Haha!

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    1. I hadn't heard of the book you mentioned so I'll check it out. Thanks!

      Haha! Yeah, there's just something about a pickup truck that starts all kinds of fantasies flowing! LOL!

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  9. Wow! Those are some lofty challenges. Is Bradley on board with you? My mind is wandering through all my handyman fantasies... *ahem* Whatever you do, don't go hiking alone...if you get bitten by a snake, you'll need someone to suck out the poison. ;-)

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    1. He's 100% on board with #3!

      With #1, both of us have a lot of questions. I've always wanted kids but right now we see this as a process. We both want to talk to other guys who have kids and ask lots of questions, which I think the group I mentioned will be good. Then we'll talk some more and go from there. Like I say, it's a process.

      With #2, he's behind me and we're talking about how he can meet me on the Trail at various points. We'll of course be communicating constantly. It's not something that's going to happen soon, so we have plenty of time to work out all the details.

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    2. #1 Sounds like an excellent idea. Ideally, ALL parents should go through something like this before having children. It's definitely not something to rush into!

      #2 Just be safe! And take lots of pictures.

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  10. Guys, check out Garet & Dusty's blog: http://www.scenicboyadventures.com/. They love to hike and take some absolutely gorgeous photos "au naturel".

    But Brad might not let you go hiking without him after this. ;-)

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    1. Aww, look at the happy puppy...and the cute boy butts! I don't remember camping/hiking being this much fun. I think I was doing it wrong. :-/

      http://www.scenicboyadventures.com/frolicking-friday-4/

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    2. Stop it Madison or should I say Badison! lol. Brad is spooked already so he's either going with Matt or cancelling Matt's hike.

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    3. He's gotta go with Matt. Someone's gotta take the nature-butt shots!

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  11. Wow Matt, amazing challenges you've got there! And I'm sure you will achieve them :)

    #1 I'm impressed and I think it's important to be prepared before taking the plunge. Kids are a lot of work but whatever people will say they just need to be loved unconditionally. And it's so nice to have them telling you every day that you are the most beautiful person in the world! (Currently I am more beautiful than Rihanna from what my Viggo says to me :P)

    #2 Don't know where you are in the Cut&Run series, but I think you need to read Sticks and Stones before going there :
    Ty and Zane, along with Ty's father and brother, head up into the Appalachian mountains for a nice, relaxing hike deep into the woods... where no one will hear them scream. :P

    #3 Pick up truck... congrats! And good luck with the renovations :)

    *hugs to you both*

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    1. Thanks for your confidence, Carnell! ;)

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  12. Holy cats, Matty! The rest of us have resolutions like lose five lbs or read more, etc. You're are deep, thought out and life changing. Glory! You never do anything halfway :) Good luck, sweetheart, I know you'll succeed.

    -Shell

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  13. Hi Matty,

    You have some amazing Challenges set up for the coming year! I know you will give them your best as always. It's obvious you are goal-oriented. I wish you good luck, even in the attempts.

    Hugs to you and Bradley.

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  14. Hey Matt! You truly are a very together guy. Most kids you're age don't have the slightest clue yet about what they want long term and yet look at you! What wonderfully well thought out goals. You most definitely are too hard on yourself. One bit of advice, don't rush parenthood, Sweetie! Enjoy having time alone with Brad and college life, there's plenty of time for kids after 25! I had my twins at 26 and am so glad that I waited.

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    1. Excellent point, Pati May, about not rushing things. Yeah, this whole thing is a process. ;)

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  15. If you do succeed with all of your challenges (which I dont doubt for a second), you will certainly have "gone forward" in your life :)

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  16. Can't wait for Part 4 : "Resolving the resolve"!!

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  17. Wow, I wish I had been half as centered as you are in your life now. I applaud your plan for parenthood. Kids change your life in so many ways the more prepared you are the better but it still won't be anything like you expect. If you haven't already you should check out Jerry Mahoney's blog Mommy Man. He and his partner have twins from a surrogate and he has some great comments and topics concerning parenthood. I highly recommend it.

    I love that you are planning on hiking the Appalachian Trail. If you haven't read it yet read A Walk in the Woods by Bill Bryson. He details his trek along the Appalachian Trail, its a good read. I live close to one of the access points where the Long Trail and Appalachian Trail share space and we try to get out on it as much as possible.

    Good luck, I can't wait to read how it all turns out!

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