Thursday, November 29, 2012

Motivating Matty

This past weekend Matty was chatting with JF, a friend of ours whose blog is called Going Forward. Check it out if you get a chance.

At one point in their convo I asked Matty if we could get started on some house cleaning we needed to do. This was something we both had talked about (initiated by moi) and we had even come up with a list of things that needed attention.

Matty explained to JF that he needed to say good bye since we were starting to do some housecleaning. Apparently Matty also told him he had delayed getting started since he didn't like housecleaning and would chat with him later.

If you remember from a post I wrote a while back (here's the link), Matty HATES housework! With a passion. Give him a rake and he's out the door in record time to take care of the leaves. Give him his toolbox and he's checking how tight the screws are on the porch light. Give him his tape measure and he's checking the layout frame for the deck he's working on in the back. 

Ask him to be inside to help give the bathroom a thorough cleaning, or to vacuum the living room, or dust the furniture, or even clean out the toaster oven, and he somehow mysteriously disappears or goes incognito!

Well, I finally discovered a way to get him motivated to help clean the house. I think the pics below might explain my method.

I'm glad to report the house is now all nice and sparkly clean. Amazing what a little elbow grease will do. Oh, and promises of "after cleaning" rewards! LOL!

So, help me out here. This method I've discovered seems to work pretty well, and I'm doubting it will lose it's impact anytime soon, but what do you guys do to motivate your other half? Spill your methods, please! ;)

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    1. Why, thank you, Shell! Difficult problems require creative solutions, I always say! ♥

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  2. Nice reward! I think that's a sure fire way to motivate anybody! As I am currently other halfless, it's all about motivating myself. Rewards are key, I agree, so when I get done, I get to buy myself a new book. :)

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  3. So call me when Matty does an avoidance post lol. That is me. Our motivation is "OMG, we're having people over-move your ***!" Being a voracious reader, I'm the bad guy. I don't mind having books on side tables, magazines on coffee tables & newspapers piling up until recycle day. Three tennis bags take up space in the front hall. We keep up with the cleaning, it's the clutter we don't keep up with. Turning off the TV & cranking up the music helps.

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    1. Haha!

      When Matty is in his avoidance mode, he gets very sly. He doesn't express anything negative unless you count a little bitty, and almost inaudible, *sigh* under his breath. He sorta leaves the room nonchalantly and I don't hear anything from him, like the whole house suddenly gets quiet. That's my clue to go find him.

      He was hiding in the bathroom once and another time he hid in the closet. The closet hideaway was part of a deliberate hide-and-seek thing he was doing! LOL.

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    2. LOL you can say, "I'll give you something to sigh about!" Except it'll be a good thing.

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    3. Ooooooo, that's good! I'll remember that one! ;)

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    4. Hmmmmm. A collaboration between Mary and Brad. Just remember I'm listening in to this conversation! LOL! ;-)

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    5. Busted! LOL Matt! I will totally support your future avoidance post too if you write one. I'll even trade ideas. Don't tell Brad ;)

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    6. That's a deal, Mary!

      I'll make sure I cover up our little convo here before Brad sees it!! ;)

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    7. Darn! I just realized you can't get certain cramps lol. Got to get creative. I'll have to note what my son comes up with or tries to anyway. Since Brad is as smart as moms are nothing will help lol.

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  4. I give hubby a chance to help and if he doesn't, I hire someone to do it and he gets to pay for it.

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    1. LOL!!! Now that's a creative strategy!! ;)

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  5. Did you wear that outfit, Brad? Cause no advice I give could ever top that, LOL.

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    1. Madison, I told Matty that guy in the bottom pic represented him! He actually had a very similar facial expression while he rushed to get finished!! LOL!

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  6. lol, cute. I have no advice since I don't reaally do anything except look pretty. Ask Milo, lol

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    1. Haha! And I'm sure Milo is feeding you grapes and fanning you! LOL! ♥

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  7. For the record, Bradley, I'd like to see you and/or Matty in that pink number!

    As for motivations, I'm like Kris right now. The only difference is I buy the book ahead of time so I have something specific to look forward to. But as workable methods go, I'd say yours is the best!

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    1. Hey Susan, if I can get Matty to wear that pink cleaning outfit, I'll post it!! LOL!

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    2. I don't look good in pink. But I do like a variation of pink called Mountbatten pink: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mountbatten_pink

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    3. LOL, Matty. I can't help but ponder how you came upon that website. And that's my FAVORITE color, although I've always called it "dusty purple". I about died of glee when I went to a Ray Lamontagne concert and found a shirt in that color WITH A PEACOCK ON IT (I have a peacock tattoo). I bought two! Both for me. You know, for back up. :-)

      http://media-cache-lt0.pinterest.com/upload/9499849183467279_zoVb68rd_c.jpg

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    4. WOW, Madison! That t-shirt is EXACTLY the color I was talking about!

      Oh, and Ray Lamontagne lives in Massachusetts! Did you know that?

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    5. No, I didn't! God, I love him. Favorite song: Old Before Your Time

      "Ain't it about time you realize? It's not worth keepin' score
      You win some, you lose some and you let it go
      What's the use of stacking on every failure another stone
      Till you find you've spent your whole life
      Building walls, lonely and old before your time"

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    6. Madison, you call that 'dusty purple', I call it 'mauve'. Either way, I just want to see Matty in the outfit! Do you hear me Matty?! :)

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    7. Ha Ha. Yep, Susan. I hear you! Don't hold your breath, though! LOL!! No matter what the color, look at how drafty that skimpy outfit is! Oh man! ;)

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    8. I know Matty, but I don't want to hear 'skimpy' from a guy who likes Speedos as much as you do.

      I think you just don't want to trade in your baseball cap for a hair wrap, am I right? :)

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    9. Busted! LOL

      But you'll never see me in Speedos and a hair wrap! You're right about that! ;)

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  8. Hmmm, well I love your method but my bribery is he can get more stuff to work on his vehicles or the popular "Someone/grandbaby is coming!"

    Tj

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    1. Good thinking. Always match the bribe with what you know he likes! ;)

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  9. Well, I am also other halfless so I motivate myself by sweet treats. In the end my house will be clean and I will be able to burn some calories of my sweets (I hope so)
    But I guess you can find other methods to burn calories ;) However you can bake some of Matty's favourite food.

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    1. Oh yes, Ozly. In the summer, Matty makes orgasmic sounds when I make him my super-dooper, extra-special, double-chocolate banana split!

      I'm also learning all about Mexican food, which is one of his (and my) favorite comfort foods.

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  10. Sounds like your original plan worked pretty well, Brad. You don't need any suggestions. ;-)

    But just in case carnal persuasion doesn't work in the future, try singing to Matty. If you're good, he'll bend to your will. If you're bad, he'll still bend to your will -- just to get you to stop.

    Or make him watch one of those hoarding shows. They always get me motivated.

    (Wow, nice to see Ray Lamontagne mentioned here! I refer to one of his songs in one of my books.)

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    1. Which one of your books is Ray Lamontagne mentioned in, K.Z.?

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    2. Oooh, which one? I have a bunch of your books on my own-to-read shelf. I so so so loved precious_boy. :-)

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    3. I LOVED precious_boy too, Madison!

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    4. I just finished a KZ binge. Precious Boy, The Zero Knot & Electric Melty Tingles. Just amazing! I highlighted so many beautiful phrases.

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    5. I know, Mary! K.Z. is one of those authors I love to re-read.

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    6. Actually while we're on the subject, KZ is the reason I haven't loaded the dishwasher. "I've fallen for this book and I can't get up!" lol.

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    7. Oh Mary, that's hilarious! What a great excuse for not doing housework!

      Oh wait, Brad's trying to keep me motivated to do housework! He'd probably look at me like I lost my marbles if I said, "I'm sorry but I have to finish reading K.Z.'s book first."

      Oh wait! I can't use that now since I know what prize I'll get if I get my butt in gear and just get the work done! LOL ;)

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    8. I've tried, "this book is for a review, I have a deadline." (I'm on a break from that right now) but I'm a bad liar.

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    9. Well, damn . . .

      I really hadn't intended to pimp my books, 'cause I know Brad has a crisis on his hands, but since you asked -- "Crazy Dreamers" is mentioned in the Prologue to Abercrombie Zombie. It's one of my favorite Ray LaMontagne songs. (The zombie in the title can relate to it.)

      By the way, thanks to all of you for saying such nice things. <3

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    10. Congrats KZ on your Rainbow Awards Second Place for The Zero Knot. We have good taste!

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  11. Matt, I talked with Brad and he says he agrees to get you laid if you come over here and help me with my own house cleaning projects :)

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    1. Oh he did, did he? Hmmmm. Well, let me know when you've purchased my round trip airline ticket and I'll fly in, do your house cleaning, and fly home! Sorry I won't get to visit with you though. I'll have to get home to claim my reward!! LOL ;)

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    2. You could always bring Brad with you, I could prepare a love room for you guys and go take a big walk while you get rewarded :) Unless you prefer to be more spontaneous and get your reward in the kitchen? Or perhaps the living room. I would only ask you to clean again afterwards, tho :P

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    3. Oh what a great idea, JF! A "love room," huh? LOL

      But then again the spontaneity aspect of your idea is quite appealing, too!

      And if we have to keep cleaning after our romps, well, we might never leave! Think about what you're getting into, buddy! ;)

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  12. Good luck with the motivation Brad! I have to say I hate housework as well so you're not alone Matty! My motivation is not wanting something to grab/ growl at me from the dirt and clutter that could pile up. LOL.

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  13. Matty must be easily motivated. He must be putty in your hands. ;-)

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  14. Re: pimping KZ books. My goal is to try all the authors that visit here. I also adored Madison Parker's book Sock It To Me Santa. Funny & heartwarming & best 99 cents I've ever spent. I'll read her next one. Next is Kaje Harper. Can't wait.

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    1. I lOVED Sock it to Me! And I happen to know a certain someone who was a beta reader. And I know a certain blog that is planning a review soon. And I know a certain author of that story who wants to offer a free giveaway to a lucky commenter. Stay tuned! ;)

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    2. I emailed her before I even finished the book because the demonic sock monkey made me laugh SO hard. Then she made my chest ache at the 3rd gift exchange. The best kind of writer!

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    3. Ok, I'm sold. I'm getting it when I get home!

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    4. Me too, I've just 'one clicked' it! :)

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    5. Ooh, add me to the list. Weekend reading!

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    6. Just finished it. I loved it!! Thanks Madison and thanks Brad and Mary for recommending it.

      I could have waited for the chance to win it, Brad, but I'm glad I didn't because a sweet and heartwarming story was just what I needed. I had to look up sock monkeys though, I haven't come across them before and I couldn't quite picture one. LOL

      I look forward to comparing notes when you post the review. Speaking of reviews wasn't Matt going to write about 'Cut & Run' when he finished it?

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    7. Here's a great tutorial video, Alder: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kM9EhGSshCE&feature=related

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    8. I'm so glad you loved it Alder. Thanks for letting me know. When I talk or write about books I tend to focus on how they make me feel and I worry sometimes that I've built something up too much. Chest achy and/or humor is pretty much a win for me.

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    9. I just had to pop back in to say that I really loved this story, Madison. I can't wait to read more by you. I'm like you, Mary - I want to eventually read books by all of the authors that visit here.

      The sock monkey part was especially funny for me because I recently found out that my tough-guy nine-year-old son is terrified of them. I was really surprised when my daughter told me. I said, "You're not scared of sock monkeys - you always play with them at grandma's house. You set them on that little stool and shoot them with arrows". He said, "Yeah, Mom, I SHOOT them - I hate those freakin' things."

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    10. Oh, and hi Brad and Matty!!!!! I just realized how rude I was visiting your site and then not talking to you. Enjoy that clean house and have a great weekend!

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    11. Ann Marie - so cute about your son lol. Glad you enjoyed the story too.

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    12. Bahahahahaa, Ann Marie! Too funny! So glad you guys liked it. I didn't mean to hijack Brad & Matty's post though! As Brad hinted, he'll be blogging about the story in December. I'm looking forward to reading Brad's review, and to chatting with you guys about the story. :-D

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    13. Actually it's my fault - using books to avoid housework started all this.

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    14. BTW I read Where The Heart Is by Kaje Harper. Awesome novella. Packed a punch for a short. Had a bit of a "Gift of the Magi" element for me. Anyway, we need a book club lol. Sorry guys, had to be fair to all the authors.

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    15. Can't wait for the review, Brad and Madison!

      Ooh, another rec - thanks Mary! I'm checking it out.

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    16. Just watched that tutorial video Madison, it's very well done. There's a lot of work in each monkey. I understand now the problems Ryan had, I would be the same!!
      I'm hopeless at anything to do with handicrafts, it always feel as though my fingers swell up to 3 or 4 times their normal size when I'm trying to do this kind of thing. Just threading the needle becomes a problem. LOL

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    17. Ann Marie said... "Oh, and hi Brad and Matty!!!!! I just realized how rude I was visiting your site and then not talking to you. Enjoy that clean house and have a great weekend!

      Ha ha! You're not being rude! It's so cool to see the conversations going on between people here. I love it when this happens!! ;)

      Oh, and we might need to clean the bedroom again! Undies on the floor, sneakers out of place, etc... Where's Matty? I just know he'll get right to work with his cleaning assignment!! LOL!

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    1. Hoping the comment got emailed to Brad so I don't have to leave it up here. Falls into the TMI realm. =)

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    2. LMAO! Yep, I got it, Adara! Now I'm grinning from ear to ear! LOL!

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    3. It totally works. My husband has asked me if he can fold the laundry nearly every day since I did that. =)

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  16. Hi,

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    It is being held in Leicester Square Theatre and running until January. Check out my blog post for more information. I am also running a cash give away, for those who cannot attend the show.

    http://ianjosephbrook.blogspot.ie/2012/12/dick-adult-panto-ticketcash-give-away.html

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    www.mindofmine.co.uk

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    1. Cool. Thanks for letting us know, Ian.

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  17. Well done Brad! And I wonder why I haven't thought about this before? I am sure as hell that I wouldn't have been the only one house cleaning all those past years! ;) *hugs to you both*

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