Wednesday, April 4, 2012

Big Announcement Clue # 3

Just a reminder that if you didn't read our post on Friday March 23, this post may not make a whole lot of sense.

Today is "Big Announcement Clue #3 Day!"  Under the red double lines below, you'll find one or two clues about what it is we're going to announce during the first week of April. The clue or clues may be a phrase or a word that if you think about it, might lead you to some ideas about what it is we're going to be announcing.

If you think you may have discovered a "clue", leave a comment sharing what you think the clue is pointing to. You're free to make as many guesses as you like, but for each guess you have to connect it to the "clue" you think you've discovered.

For example, if you say, "I think the special occasion is (X) because Brad keeps using the word 'Y' over and over again in the post. And that can only mean this is about 'Z'."
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When we first started writing our blog, I wrestled with whether to share anything about my Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD). To be honest, I was worried I might be negatively judged in some way. When I was a little kid people were constantly annoyed with me because, well, I was pretty hyperactive. Not always an endearing thing to others.

When Brad and I started dating, I also wrestled with how to explain it to him. I figured if we just went out on a few dates and then decided to go our separate ways, there'd be no reason to bring it up. I've been on medication since childhood and I would just make sure I took my meds before we went out and he'd never have any need to know.

However, after that first date, there was never any doubt in either of our minds that we wanted to start seeing each other as often as we could.

Well, as I've explained elsewhere in the blog, I'm on one of the "old" meds used to treat ADHD and it gets in my system quickly, does it's thing, and then makes an early exit! I have to take 3 doses at different times throughout the day so it stays level in my system. Sometimes I forget to take a dose... my levels go down... and I'm all bouncy and have a hard time concentrating. (BTW, I'm going to be moving to one of the newer longer-lasting meds soon!)

Needless to say, this whole thing affected my self-esteem growing up. When I'd get bouncy, I would become annoying to others around me. It's just what happens. I don't mean to be like that, it's the way my brain is wired.

The reason I had self-esteem problems is because I was convinced there was something really wrong and bad about my personality. I mean, why would teachers, my parents, my brothers, friends, all get frustrated with me for being a pain when I was around?

The meds were a godsend and I learned from some counselors I saw that meditating, doing deep breathing exercises, learning t'ai chi and yoga helped tremendously.

For the self-esteem (which I still struggle with at times), I've found a tremendous benefit from writing what I'm thinking about and what I'm feeling. When I write things out, I can always see what's going on inside me at lot better, then I can figure things out or talk about it with Brad or other people I trust.

Even if you don't have ADHD, I'd highly recommend keeping a journal or finding some similar way to write out what's happening to you. For me, it's always led to much clearer thinking.

14 comments:

  1. Well, if I were going with the stronger commitment line of thinking, I might base it on "never any doubt in either of our minds".

    Maybe. =)

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  2. OMG, NO BIG ANNOUNCEMENT YET????

    You're killing me here!!!

    *deep breath and starts typing again*

    Let me think...

    The clue word is "write" because, well, because I want it to be!!! :P

    I liked your post Matt and I'm glad that writing your thoughts is helping you with your self-esteem. Oh, and I hope your new meds will suit you better. :)

    *hugs*

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    1. It'll be my luck they'll do it this weekend while I'm working an anime convention and can't be online. =)

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  3. Ok Matty, I think Brad gave you a lesson on how to be more subtle with your clues lol I like Adara's idea that "never any doubts in either of our minds" but you also mentioned your self esteem a few times too. I'm sorta lost now as to where this may be going but I'm still hoping it's what we all keep saying!!

    I'm also going to add that you are an amazing person Matty and I love every part of your personality regardless of how "bouncy" you get. I know it's easier said than done but don't ever let someone make you feel bad because of something you can't control. It's part of who you are and those who truly care about you will love you for it! I hope you can see now what a truly wonderful person you are!
    LOVE AND HUGS

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  4. Well, I could go with "self-esteem" and I could continue to grope my way toward guessing here...but something happened as I read your post. I got caught up...captured by your speaking...by your sharing...your pain...your courage...your incredible heart. So I think I will just pause here for a while...and think of you...and smile. And say that whatever this big announcement is--well, it couldn't be happening to two sweeter, more deserving guys.

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  5. I'm taking this "I've found a tremendous benefit from writing what I'm thinking about and what I'm feeling. When I write things out, I can always see what's going on inside me at lot better, then I can figure things out" to mean that you are going to write us a novel about a guy with ADHD. (Yes, please??)

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    1. OMG, YES PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE!! That is an excellent idea Kaje!

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  6. The word "wrestling" came up twice so I am going to guess that you and Brad are tying the knot during a rodeo....maybe the calf wrestling event or something.

    See? I am much older then you and am still annoying so please allow yourself some wiggle room to just be you...even the bouncy you. It's part of your charm and why you are so loved.

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  7. Great post Matty! You are taking lessons from Brad...LOL. Well, I think you are brave to speak about your ADHD issues. My youngest son has autism so I know it can't be easy to put yourself out there like that. Good on you!

    Also, I think this post is leading me to believe you are going to be writing your vows to Brad. You stated for you that writing "always led to much clearer thinking". What could be more clear than your love for Brad? (I really hope I'm right.)

    *love and hugs*

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    1. I love that guess too and I hope hope hope you are right as well!

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  8. Matt, my brother has adhd. I love reading the posts from both of you guys. I was introverted and struggle with self esteem issues, so I am so happy for you guys :)

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  9. Meds = Mediterranean; therefore you guys are going on a cruise to Italy to celebrate your 2nd anniversary.

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  10. I've already written you in private messages and know how it feels. Just remember, we all love you despite the times you get hyper. Brad especially!! *HUGS*

    I really hope you write a book one day about your struggles and triumphs. It would be brilliant!

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