It's hard to believe we're down to the wire with our move. The people currently in the house are moving out on Thursday so we'll start moving things in on Friday. The bed will be delivered on Saturday, October 1st (you know the one, for the Master Sex Chamber!). So, that will be our first night there.
We're going to use Friday to make sure the former tenants did a good job of cleaning and probably move in a few things that day. Plus we need to make sure some of the "essentials" are in place for BIP-AHHM on Saturday, like plenty of cool drinking water, lots of snacks, plates, forks, spoons, pots and pans and all the ingredients for the Thank You Spaghetti Dinner I'm cooking for everyone (thanks for that great suggestion, C.J.).
I feel really good about this move. I'm glad I have lots more time than Matty so I can take care of all the details and coordinate everything and he gets to devote his time to his schoolwork.
This is not only really exciting, but I have to say it's also a little daunting. Not only is the actual moving of "stuff" pretty involved, but it's a little bit nerve-wracking (is that even a word?). I mean, I think it's going to feel a little bit weird to not be living at home with our parents and sibs, but instead to have this whole house to ourselves that we're going to make into "our" home. It feels like a HUGE grown-up thing to do. I mean, all the responsibility involved.
At first it felt like it was going to be all "fun and games." I'm sure it will be fun once we get settled. But then there's this feeling we're moving into another phase of our relationship. It's kind of hard to explain, but it just feels like a huge responsibility. And we're just moving across town and it's not like we're leaving our family and friends and starting a whole new life in some unfamiliar part of the country.
I'm sure it will be fine. I'm trying to enjoy the process of getting ready to move. Then I want to enjoy the actual moving. Then, finally, I want to enjoy what lies ahead of us once we're actually in the house.
It may sound silly, but I've been thinking a lot about the difference between a "house" and a "home." We're moving into a "house," the actual building. But what's inside that building will be our "home." That's what we're creating. A little daunting, yes. But that's what love is all about.
Sounds like you're doing a great job, Brad :-) It's lovely of you to help out while Matt's doing his school work.
ReplyDeleteI've done the move-in-with-a-boyfriend thing a couple of times and so have any number of my friends and we all agree on one thing - if you don't want to kill each other in the first 3 months, you're doing great! LOL. It takes time to adjust, you have spats over stupid things (i.e. my ex-boyfriend's, "Why do you always leave the kettle over the other side of the kitchen when the plug is over here!" issue), you think you're probably going to have to kick them if they don't stop stealing all the blankets... etc, etc! But in the end, it's so much fun and so worth it to have a home together, if you can navigate those little by-ways :-)
It is exciting, Brad, and a little scary. But I think you and Matty will be fine and things will be amazing. Iv
ReplyDeleteBrad, it is a huge responsibility you two are facing, but in the end, it will all be worth it. Remember, you will get to be sleeping each night wrapped in one another's arms. Everything will be fine, so don't stress about any of it and remember, if you need to talk, if it seems like it gets to be too much, I'm just an email away.
ReplyDeleteBrad, you'll do fine and it's scary yes but you know what if you didn't have that I think I'd bop you on the head once and tell you that being scared is NORMAL...Since I'm going to be moving more than likely the middle of 2012 I'm going to be so busy trying to get things ready...my move comes way after yours but then again I've not had enough time or energy to start finding what I need.
ReplyDeleteNow have fun and don't hurt yourself wearing those heels or I'll have to kick Matt in the pants for not watching you walk in them. (Wait I won't have to do that because Matt will be a sweetheart and watch you in those heels...hmm gotta add things to a list BIP-AHHM still thinking on a few things to say about that one because I know I can make a smile pop up on your face with some of the things I could put hehe) Beautiful in Paris- at home or Houston MHM!
You guys are going to do great, Brad. Living together, being on your own, creating your own 'home', investing in a future... all those things are exciting and challenging, but always worth it.
ReplyDeleteI only bought my first home a couple years ago. After I got over the shock of "holy crap I just bought a house!" and "holy crap I'm in serious effing debt!" I shook my head wondering why the heck I didn't buy a house 20yrs ago. Until the water heater blew. ;-) Really though, its one of the the best things I ever did.
Yeah, it's a HUGE step. But it's one you two are more than ready for in my ever so humble opinion! What's that line from that Burt Bacharach song? "A house is not a home when there's no one there to hold you tight and no one there you can kiss goodnight..." Yeah...you guys got the main ingredients...you're golden! Have fun making your home!
ReplyDeleteAnd don't forget to take a pic of all the BIP-AHHM Shoes!! :D
Oooo...I forgot! The spaghetti dinner idea...you're more than welcome! :D
ReplyDeleteWow, it's coming up fast guys! Yay! Enjoy and cherish your first home together! *big hugs*
ReplyDeleteI am SO excited for you both! It is daunting, a new home, a next step, so many firsts....oh so worth it.
ReplyDeleteJust remember....BIP-AHHM shoe pics!
{{hugs}} to you and Matty, you're gonna be great!
It's a big step and there's nothing wrong with being a little nervous about being a 'grown up' now. Moving into my first apartment with my best friend was daunting, and a little scary, even thought my family was ten minutes away. But like you said, you're making a 'home' together. It will offer new challenges to your relationship, but you'll get through them, of that I have no doubt. Expect to have bumps along the way and don't panic when they happen. It's all normal!! Do what you guys always do, talk them out and keep looking forward, not back.
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You're golden!
I think Brad, if you didn't find it a bit daunting, then I'd be more worried! It just shows that you're facing the move with reality, because it truly is a huge responsibility. In the end though, the overall result outweighs any of the hassle involved, as creating a home with is other is what life and love is all about. As Mary said, the payoff is when you're in bed together, wrapped in each other's arms. I'll also let you into a little secret... No matter what age you are, things like this are always daunting... You just get better at bluffing your way through it, lol! Enjoy the excitement and the nervousness - it just a sign that you're moving forward in life and that can never be truly bad.
ReplyDeleteGood luck with the move, what an exciting time for you both!! I'm sure the christening will be a highlight & go off with a bang!!! ha
ReplyDeleteTake care:)
Carmel
You'll find yourself feeling both the excitement and the trepidation for a while. When I moved first, it helped me to make a list of the absolute essentials that had to be taken care of in my new home; there weren't many that would be a disaster if I messed up briefly. Rent, electric, gas and phone bills were the most essential, and even then being a couple of days late once was a fine (ouch) not a crisis. Forgetting to buy groceries meant eating cereal, no big. Forgetting to put out the trash was smelly, but livable for a week. The more I thought about it, the more I realized that yes, there were a lot of responsibilities. But I actually had room to mess up on most of them occasionally and no one would die. That let me calm down and enjoy the process.
ReplyDeleteThe biggest thing is talking to each other. Decide explicitly who is responsible for doing the important stuff (to avoid the "I thought you were writing that check" crises). Then have fun, share ideas, bitch about problems before they fester, laugh together and fall into bed with each other every night.
Best wishes for the move. You guys already have the essentials to create a home: the determination to make it happen and someone who loves you to share it with.
It'll be lots of fun in a new home right up until:
ReplyDeleteM: "The lawn needs mowing."
B: "I did the gutters. You do the lawn."
M: "I just did the porch rails. You do the lawn."
B: "I did the laundry."
M: "I did the dishes."
B: "I did the vacuuming."
M: "I did the dusting."
B: "I did the toilets."
M: "I have to read for class tomorrow. You do the lawn."
B: "Dammit, I always lose!"
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