Dear Brad,
Thank you for your trust in agreeing to let me send you this "open" letter on our blog without you reading if first.
I want you to know I understand how hard it was for you to write about that first "crisis" we went through after only a month into our relationship. We talked about the pros and cons of being so public about your fears of confronting me with your feelings and also about how I felt about everyone knowing about my ADHD.
I loved seeing how you went about making the decision to put yourself out there in such a public setting and be totally honest and vulnerable about how you felt. And also about how you were so sensitive to how I felt about something that is still very personal (and basically private) to me.
Reading what you wrote meant a lot to me and I want you to know how much I respect and admire your courage. I know it was a hard thing to confront me so many months ago and then to find the words to share it with others here. I'm hopeful that others will benefit from seeing how you figured out how to bring all this up to me. It's never easy to tell someone you care about that you're feeling scared or confused or even angry.
I also want to thank you for the progress I'm making in not feeling so ashamed or embarassed about the ADHD. This is directly connected to our talks about it and what you wrote here the past two days. I know I'm not suppose to blame myself because it's something I didn't cause, but I guess with all the negative experiences I had growing up connected to it, it's always had this "stigma" thing attached to it.
I don't want to make this a "sappy" letter because that's not how I'm feeling. We've always agreed to be truthful with each other, and I can say without any hesitation that I love you beyond words. I never thought I would ever deserve to have someone like you in my life. And I can't imagine what my life would be like without you in it.
Love (pure and simple),
Matt
P.S. - Wanna go out tonight for dinner at our favorite restaurant and then back to my place for "sleep-over dessert"? No limit on servings, of course!
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simply beautiful. hugs to you both
ReplyDeleteMatty, I love you, too.
ReplyDeleteAnd, yes, I would love to go out to dinner tonight. I'll be sure not to eat too much so I'll have room for all those "desserts" during the sleep-over. Just make sure it's one of those all night and "all you can eat" desserts bars!! {{horny grins}}
Very sweet!!! My sister has ADHD as well, so I know how hard it can be to talk about.
ReplyDeleteVery nice to see that you two have such a free and open relationship.
Oh you two are so sweet and adorable. I think it is wonderful and amazing how honest and open you are with each other. That is a big key to a successful relationship and you both have already conquered that hurdle. I know I wasn't that mature and articulate at your ages.
ReplyDeleteThe past two posts have been so emotional, it's very brave of you both to share your story.
Enjoy your night out tonight boys. :)
Awww. :) Have fun tonight!
ReplyDeleteSo sweet! *hugs*
ReplyDeleteVery sweet and open! You guys go out and have some fun tonight!! Hugs.
ReplyDeleteSimply lovely. You two have something really special together :).
ReplyDeleteHave a great time on your date!
Beautiful letter Matt:)
ReplyDeleteYou guys enjoy your well deserved dessert tonight, lots & lots of seconds!!
You are both amazing, special people, such terrific role models!
Lovely letter, Matt :) Hope dinner and dessert were delicious!
ReplyDeleteI haven't had a chance to post a comment the last few days, as I've only been able to read the updates from my email, but as a mom to an ADHD kid, I just want to remind Matt that he has nothing to be ashamed of. It is simply part and parcel of who you are, just as your goodness and intelligence are.
ReplyDeleteYou two are doing a great thing here. Just keep loving each other and being honest, the rest will fall into place.
That was one beautiful letter. *hugs*
ReplyDeleteYou two are absolutely beautiful just like this letter.
ReplyDeleteI agree with everyone else who's said that Matt has nothing to be ashamed of. Just like what was written in your last entry, ADHD is what it is. And a lot of what it is is creativity, intelligence and ingenuity.
One of the best people I know is ADHD. She was scared to tell me because she's lost friends over it. But I'm bipolar so we just learned to accept and appreciate each other's idiosyncrasies. It's all about honesty. When she's flying all over the place I don't shut her down but I help her organize her thoughts. When I'm a little off she lets me know.
The key is that you say what you have to say with love. Brad, you did that for Matt and you should be proud of yourself because there are people twice your age who can't find it in themselves to handle the situation the way you did.
This made me smile and I haven't even caught up on all of the posts yet.